Hello, beautiful friend!
Let me start by saying something you might really need to hear right now:
You are not too late.
You are not behind.
And you are definitely not done.
In fact, I’d argue you’re just getting started.
If you’ve found yourself here—maybe with a cup of coffee in hand or scrolling late at night—it’s because you’re craving something deeper. You’re wondering if there’s more to life than what you’re currently living. You’re thinking about your purpose, your passion, and what’s next for you as a midlife woman.
Trust me, I get it. As a 47-year-old woman who’s lost 126 lbs (and counting!) while navigating perimenopause, empty nesting, career pivots, and a total reinvention of self, I absolutely understand that longing for meaning. I’ve felt that quiet (sometimes loud!) pull asking: What is my purpose now?
And you know what I discovered?
Midlife isn’t a crisis. It’s an awakening.
In this post, I’m sharing 6 powerful tips to help you find purpose in midlife. These are the steps I took—and continue to take—that led me to create my life coaching business, lose the weight (physically and emotionally), and step confidently into this next chapter.
So pour yourself something cozy, settle in, and let’s do this together.
Because midlife is your time to awaken and bloom.
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Let’s be real.
For years—maybe even decades—you’ve been the glue. The caregiver. The hard worker. The partner. The daughter. The mother. The do-it-all-woman.
But somewhere along the line, your self may have gotten a little lost.
Finding your purpose in midlife isn’t about adding more to your plate. It’s about reconnecting with who you really are, why you’re here, and how you want to spend the precious years ahead.
It’s about waking up in the morning with a sense of joy and direction, knowing you’re living life on purpose, not just by default.
And yes, it’s absolutely possible for you.
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Here’s a little secret: Your passions may have been whispering to you all along.
That book you keep thinking about writing.
The art supplies collecting dust in the closet.
The urge to travel, volunteer, or start your own business.
Sometimes we silence those whispers because life gets busy. Or we think, Who am I to do that?
But midlife is exactly the time to reignite those passions—because now you have the wisdom, strength, and life experience to actually go for it.
Try This:
• Make a list of everything you used to love doing.
• Try something new, just for fun—no pressure.
• Ask yourself: What makes me feel alive?
Passions don’t have to be “productive.” They just have to light you up.
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What mattered most to you at 25 may not be what matters at 45, 50, or beyond.
Maybe you used to prioritize career success, but now you crave freedom and health.
Maybe you valued keeping the peace, but now you value authenticity and boundaries.
Getting clear on your core values helps you align your life with what’s most important to you now.
Try This:
• Write down 5 things you value most today (e.g., health, connection, adventure, growth, peace).
• Ask yourself: Am I living in alignment with these values?
• Where can you make small shifts to honor them more deeply?
Living in alignment with your values creates a sense of purpose naturally. It’s like finding your inner compass again.
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Let me be clear:
You are not too old. You are too wise to play small.
So many midlife women I coach tell me they feel like it’s “too late” to start something new. But midlife is prime time for dreaming and doing!
You have experience. You have resilience. You have clarity about what you want (or at least, what you don’t want).
A growth mindset means believing that you can learn, grow, and reinvent yourself—no matter your age.
Try This:
• Challenge limiting beliefs (e.g., “I’m too old for that”) and reframe them (e.g., “My age gives me an advantage!”).
• Take one small, scary step toward a dream you’ve had on the shelf.
• Surround yourself with people who are also growing, dreaming, and doing in midlife!
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Here’s the beautiful truth:
You have wisdom, compassion, and life experience that the world needs.
Whether you mentor younger women, volunteer at a local nonprofit, become a life coach (like I did!), or simply offer support to a friend—giving back creates meaning.
And meaning fuels purpose.
Serving others doesn’t have to be complicated. It can be as simple as sharing your story, listening deeply, or offering a helping hand.
Try This:
• Ask yourself: Who can I help? How can I show up for others?
• Volunteer for a cause close to your heart.
• Share your journey—your story could be exactly what someone else needs to hear.
When you serve others, you feel more connected, fulfilled, and purposeful.
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This season of life is about rediscovering who you are without the labels, roles, or expectations.
It’s about peeling back the layers and meeting yourself with love, curiosity, and compassion.
Self-discovery isn’t selfish. It’s essential.
Whether it’s journaling, therapy, life coaching, or spiritual exploration, taking time to know yourself is where purpose begins.
Try This:
• Start a daily journaling practice. (Ask: What do I want? What do I need? What’s next?)
• Work with a coach or therapist to explore new parts of yourself.
• Go on a retreat (even a weekend solo getaway!) to reconnect with YOU.
This is your time to bloom into the woman you’re becoming.
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Close your eyes for a second.
Imagine it’s 5 years from now.
Where are you?
What are you doing?
Who’s with you?
That’s your vision calling.
Midlife is a fresh start. Not an ending. Not a slow fade. But a whole new chapter waiting to be written—by you.
Creating a vision helps you move with intention and excitement, rather than fear or obligation.
Try This:
• Write a Future You Letter: Describe your life 5 years from now in vivid detail.
• Set one small goal today that moves you toward that vision.
• Celebrate every single step you take—because they all matter.
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Finding your purpose in midlife isn’t about reinventing yourself to please others or chasing someone else’s dream.
It’s about becoming more you than you’ve ever been.
It’s about owning your worth, your wisdom, and your wildest dreams.
And it’s about living your life on purpose, starting right now.
I want you to know:
You are worthy of a life that lights you up.
You are capable of creating it—one brave, beautiful step at a time.
And you are not alone.
If you’re feeling stuck or unsure where to start, I invite you to follow me on Instagram @jaxstys, where I share daily motivation, midlife wellness tips, and my own reinvention journey.
Let’s do this together.
Because midlife is your time to awaken and bloom.
With love and confidence,
Jax
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1.Reignite Your Passions
Find what lights you up and follow the spark.
2.Clarify Your Core Values
Live in alignment with what matters now.
3.Embrace a Growth Mindset
You’re never too old to dream big (and go after it!).
4.Serve Others Meaningfully
Your wisdom and story can help others.
5.Invest in Self-Discovery
Meet yourself with love and curiosity.
6.Create a Vision for Your Next Chapter
It’s never too late to start fresh.
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